Here’s a brief intro to a well written post about the joys of parenting children with a trauma history. Yes, I’m being sarcastic… at least up to a point. Living through the manifestations of your child’s pain is definitely not fun, but if/when you start to see the healing shine through you begin to see a light at the end of the tunnel without assuming it’s an oncoming train. I highly recommend following the link at the bottom to read the entire post.
There are some things that parents of kids who have experienced trauma know all too well. I share this information and these experiences not to elicit sympathy or proclaim that my role as a parent is an any way more challenging than yours. That is not my intent. Rather, my intent is to educate a little and draw more people into the brokenness, either directly by being willing to foster or adopt, or indirectly by supporting those in your life who may be walking this road. My intent is to shed some light into these ugly places and to continue to grow a genuine, open community. They need you. We need you! We are so extremely grateful for those who walk beside us on this journey; those who love us. Your friendship means more than you know. Continue reading
It must be standardized testing season — I haven’t seen so many articles about Common Core in a long time. (At least not since this time last year.)
Professor Schmidt had a bigger problem. Not only did he himself declare five years prior that Algebra 1, and even a Geometry course, belong in the middle school in high achieving nations, but now he had signed off on an Algebra 1 course starting only in the ninth grade. Numerous researchers have analyzed the Common Core since its publication and all have declared it of much lower expectations than those of high achieving countries. Continue reading
Last year my daughter’s class was required to participate in a PARCC “sample” test. We enjoyed what was for the most part a lovely day together. I saw no point in subjecting a special ed student with anxiety issues to additional testing on top of the 6 benchmark tests and end-of-the-year TCAPs that were already required by the district. After all I’ve read regarding the way the PARCC testing is being handled and the social media trolling being done by Pearson to find and punish any who dare to speak out about the tests, I will do my utmost to prevent my daughter from having to go through this any more. Fortunately for us, it looks like Arizona is moving toward repealing Common Core.
The article featured below provides an interesting perspective on what’s going on in the realm of PARCC testing. I highly recommend reading the entire article.
Partnership for Assessment of Readiness for College and Careers (PARCC) testing takes more than ten hours for students in grades 3 through 8 to complete.
These students have spent countless hours preparing for the PARCC tests, and they have heard that the tests are important. However, they will receive no immediate, clear benefit from taking the tests. Their teachers will receive no clear, immediate information to inform instruction. By the time PARCC scores come, the school year is over, and likely another begun. Continue reading
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What we need are not potential parents who have checked off all the potential risks on a disclosure statement. We need instead parents who are eyes-open about what could happen, and who see that what they are adopting is not a project or a cause but a child, a child with all the complications, joyful and heartbreaking, that can come with being human in a fallen universe. This means spending as much time in the pre-adoption process as good churches do in the premarital counseling process, making sure the potential parents are ate of the vows they are making, and that they are up to keeping them.
This also means, though, that we support families, especially those who are raising children with difficult past trauma. The community — including church communities — can’t see the adoption story as ending when the last baby shower present is opened or when the welcoming party from the Sunday school class has left the airport. Adopting parents with difficult children need the ministry of those who will see to it that families don’t suffer alone in difficult situations, even if that just means providing ways for couples to get away for a few days to regroup or to consult with mental health professionals as they seek to love their child through some special trauma.
Read the whole article — via When orphan care goes bad: Russell Moore on why adoption is not for everyone – The Washington Post.
by Julie Beem
What do the stories of Arkansas Rep. Harris and his wife, Torry Hansen (who returned her son to Russia in 2010), and the families in last year’s Reuters report on rehoming have in common? All were adoptive parents who found they could no longer safely parent their children in their homes. While tightening up custody transfer (rehoming) laws in this country seems like the answer, it is just a surface “fix” to a much deeper problem.
Why would adoptive parents, vetted through home studies, need to find new homes for their children? The answer is early childhood trauma and attachment disorders and the behaviors exhibited by children who have endured significant abuse and neglect. Neuroscience tells us that trauma changes developing brains, so children available for adoption are definitely at risk for these trauma-based disorders. Adoptive parents are often ill-prepared for the intensive therapeutic parenting required and few trauma-focused resources are available to them. Paradoxically, children with early attachment trauma have their greatest chance for healing in forever homes with loving therapeutic parents. Each move of a child to a new placement, whether legal or not, is retraumatizing. Regardless of custody transfer laws, unless we provide post-adoptive supports and interventions thousands of children and their families will continue to suffer.
Read more at: Changing Rehoming Laws Isn’t the Answer – Attachment & Trauma Network.